Should you confess if you’ve had an affair? Is cheating always about sex? Check out these top 6 infidelity myths.
Myth 1: People cheat because they’re unhappy at home.
Did you know that in one study, 56% of cheating men said their marriages were very happy? Many men who love their partners and have great sex at home would probably take opportunity to have something on the side if they think they can get away with it.
Unfaithful woman, on the other hand, are most likely unhappy at home and that is the main reason why they cheat. The same study showed that 66% of cheating woman said their marriages where unhappy.
Myth 2: Sex with an ex isn’t cheating because you’ve been there, done that.
Did you know that sleeping with an ex is the sexual slip-up people most commonly expect to get away with? Sex with an ex is often a desperate bid by your ex to rekindle the relationship. The chances of getting found out are higher than if you’d had sex with a stranger because strangers won’t feel the need to write you long emails or call you in the middle of the night.
Myth 3: If he/she has a history of cheating, he’ll/she‘ll probably cheat on you too.
This one is almost always true. If you partner have cheated on almost everyone they’ve been out with, they’ll almost certainly do the same to you.
Myth 4: You should always confess if you’ve had an affair.
Some experts will advise you not to tell if your partner’s not the strongest person emotionally and if the affair is unlikely to be discovered. Telling is going to wipe out any trust they’d mustered up, and it could take years to rebuild. The worst possible reason to confess an affair is to make yourself feel better.
However, if the affair is known or strongly suspected, you’re better off telling. You’ve got more chance of rescuing your relationship after a voluntary confession than after an unwanted discovery.
Myth 5: If there’s no sex involved, it’s not an affair.
Did you know that emotional infidelity is the biggest threat a marriage can face? More than 80 % of unfaithful people have affairs with someone who’d started out as “just a friend,” very often a workmate. If you share intimate details of your life with people you fancy and lie to your partner about seeing them, you’re an emotional cheater.
Myth 6: Fantasizing about someone else means you’re about to be unfaithful.
This one is very tricky. Many sex therapists will actually encourage couples in long-term relationships to fantasize about other people to cope with temptation. Logic being that it’s okay to be unfaithful in your head, just not your bed.
Some experts find this very risky. They say that affairs start in the mind and fantasy sex can make you want the real thing even more.
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